I thought about writing about this issue for a long time as it is a bit of personal experience that I really don’t like talking about online. I had a conversation with a close friend today and it is just a serious issue that people need to stop pushing under the rug. This post may trigger some people.

I don’t know how it is in other states but in new york state social services and domestic violence services suck major balls. Hypothetically lets say a women is suffering emotional and/or mental abuse, social services won’t take you seriously unless you have bruises.They will tell you to go home and “deal with it” and when you have bruises…they will help.

The problem with this is..when it leads to physical abuse and said women ends up dead. Everyone yells, why didn’t she go and get help. SHE DID and no one did anything because there weren’t physical signs.

This becomes a bigger problem when said women has a mental health disorder because then she’s just crazy right? and she’s just “making it up, to get attention’ – I’ve been hit with this line before by social workers..

My whole point in this post is stop acting like this isn’t an issue, stop saying it “isn’t abuse unless its physical”. If social workers keep turning these women away when they do end up dead, those same workers are part of the fucking problem.

Posts don’t have to be long to make a point, I’ve made mine.